Magazines say “50 hot looks to attract your man”. Advertisements tell you you need to find that dress to woo him. Putting aside the fact that fashion, like the rest of the media is based on a hetero norm, all the emphasis is on dressing to impress somebody else. But the emphasis needs to be on dressing to feel comfortable in your own skin. Dressing to be happy. Dressing for self confidence. Dressing to feel sexy. Not dressing to look sexy in somebody else’s eyes. When a person feels confident, comfortable, happy, even sexy in their own skin and their clothes become an extension of that feeling a partner’s attraction to them should come as a result of that. Dressing to look sexy in somebody else’s eyes is living life to please someone else.